Most of us look at ourselves through the eyes of others. We feel happy if others praise us and sad or angry if we are ridiculed, scolded, or made fun of! Our response has been conditioned to be a reaction right since our birth. There are very few people who are proactive and those who are, we would have noticed that such people are solution providers. They face situations, find solutions, and move on. The reactionary folk are always looking for excuses to hide their fear or their failure to succeed.
All one has to do is to accept that one is a better person every day. Once one accepts the idea that one can become better, then one starts becoming better. In life, people are very miserly while accepting happiness; nothing else is a barrier. It is just that people cannot believe that they can be happy, this is the barrier. And if one cannot believe that he/she is happy, how can such a person be happy? People believe in unhappiness; they are great believers in unhappiness; they believe in hell. They talk about heaven but they believe in hell, they talk about God but they believe in the devil.
Nowadays, people think they have stress related problems and they visit shrinks for consultation. In the west, it is considered a status symbol to see a shrink. Just imagine, perceived mental problems become a status symbol. We become what we think. Thinking positive, accepting the problem, and working at a solution will always set things right in life.
They talk about happiness so that they can feel really miserable; in comparison to happiness, they can see how unhappy they are. But they do not accept this simple truth which can transform their life immediately, instantly — that life is meant to be blissful, that it is just normal to be blissful. Not to be blissful should be a rare thing.
If people could accept happiness, joy, peace, silence, then serenity would be the normal course of life; everybody would be serene. Only once in a while a person may not be serene; that can be accepted. Health is normal, disease should not be normal. Sanity is normal, madness should not be normal.
But this is the most difficult thing for people to understand, it takes them so long a time to accept a simple thing — that they can be happy, that they are worthy of being happy, that God has created them to be happy, otherwise he would not have created them, that they are already accepted, that this existence needs them, that they are not useless, that they must be fulfilling some function in this vast complexity of life.
Once one starts accepting and respecting oneself, life starts changing, joy arises. There is no need to better oneself, one starts becoming better; it simply starts happening more and more every day. And the more it comes, the more trusting we are that it is possible; then it becomes easier. It simply depends on us, on how much we can receive; that much will be given to us. So, open the heart. Become a receptacle, an infinite receptacle. Then God becomes a guest in our being.