Aloneness is our Very Nature
When we take birth we come alone in this world — who has taken birth? That is the fundamental question — who has assumed this physical body? We take birth to parents and we receive everything associated with the material world as a gift from our parents — our language, our religion, our race and so on — so that we can fit into this materialistic world.
We are born alone, we live alone, and we die alone. Aloneness is our very nature, but we are not aware of it — we live in ignorance. And because we live in ignorance, in unawareness — we remain strangers to ourselves, and instead of seeing our aloneness as a boon filled with bliss, silence and peace, we mistake it for loneliness!
When one says one is lonely, one is missing company and feeling alone — this is psychological and becomes a kind of illness — but aloneness is beautiful, it is filled with your own self, silence, bliss and pure solitude. Loneliness is filled with darkness in the mind, negative and dismal. Everyone is running away from loneliness — it is like a wound and it hurts — and when this happens you seek comfort in a crowd, to become a part of society, to seek friends, family and raise children.
The difference is accentuated when one starts meditating — the ordinary man goes on to try to forget his loneliness, and the meditator start getting more and more familiar and acquainted with his aloneness. Many people go to the forests, mountains in search of solitude and peace trying to find themselves. Their too their mind follows them and the noise of the crowd moves with them. It is then that they realise that the problem is not society, it is the mind.
If the mind has become quiet, then wherever you are — whether in a noisy metropolis or in the forest — it does not make a difference, because you will be at bliss with your aloneness wherever you are. Once you tune in to your aloneness, you will not be afraid of relationships — you will relate to them, you will watch them as a witness. Once you do this, this becomes your expression, it becomes a manifestation of all that is your potential.
Once you enter your innermost core of being, you will not believe your own eyes — you have been carrying so much love, blessings and joy and all this time you have been running away from your own treasures!
Know these treasures for your own self and then move into relationships with full consciousness — then you will be able to help people by sharing your love, your compassion, your kindness — you will be in a position to give dignity to people’s lives with your love, compassion and kindness. You will show them the benefits of aloneness and lead them away from loneliness.