For the kind of possibilities human beings hold, life is a brief amount of time. Only for people who do not explore the full depth and dimension of who they are, for those who are miserable and depressed, life is long. This is because time is a relative experience. If we keep ourselves vibrant, exuberant, and joyful, life appears to be brief. There is no point in dwelling on yesterday, as long as we did our best. The important thing is that what we thought was the best we could do yesterday should not be good enough to us today. What we are doing today should be much better. That means we are growing.
If we act to the best of our ability and intelligence, every day will be an explosion of possibilities. If we are driving fast, there is no time to look back. Only those who are living in a parked car keep looking in the rearview mirror, because they are not going anywhere. There is no point in doing postmortem about yesterday. Creating tomorrow is what is important. To create an exciting future, we need to be at our best. Growth means to make ourselves the way we want to be. And how we want to be may change as we mature. Determine what the highest levels for us are in terms of body, mind, and emotions. That is what we should go for.
We do not have to be better than someone else, but we should not be anything less than what we can be. If we think our life is worthwhile, we must be at our best — anything less than that is wasted life. If we live exuberantly, life is fantastic. If we are half alive, everything is miserable. In a way, it is a preparation for hell. If we make ourselves wonderful, wherever we are, we will be fine. Otherwise, we may be in heaven but turn it into hell. If we want to create a future, it is important that we use our past as a stepping stone, not as a load. The more miserable our past was, the wiser and more mature we should become, sooner than others. When things happen to us, either we can become wise or wounded. This is the choice we have. Do not sit in a corner, hoping nothing bad will happen to us — life does not work that way. Whatever happens in our life, we can turn it to our advantage.
What life throws at us, what kind of situations come our way is not always in our hands. But what we make out of it is always in our hands.
Take charge of this in life — no matter what someone says, what life does to us, what the world does to us, turn it into wellbeing. For this, we need balance, and we need to function at our highest level. Indiscriminately, whoever it is, whatever we do — always give the best. Learn to look at everyone and everything with the same intensity and the same involvement. Selective involvement means being half alive. To mature into a full-fledged human being, always strive to function at the highest possible level of one’s capability, in every little thing we do.
If we are giving less than our best and someone says something about us, we will get confused as to who we are. This does not mean we should establish our way of being once and for all. Growth is a constant process. It is about building ourselves up to the highest possible level.
Most people are volatile, in the sense, one moment, they are wonderful — the next moment, they are nasty. Instead, determine what the highest level for us is currently and strive to get there. Just bring this into our life — in everything, give nothing less than the best.