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Judging Others

Why do we judge people? Sometimes our opinion is formed even before having been introduced to a person. After spending several years on the spiritual path, we develop a sixth sense, we think we understand energy, and based on that we again judge people and slot them as ‘good’ or ‘bad.’

We do not have to stop judging people, we need to understand why and how we judge people. We can only judge that which is visible — like the behaviour of a person, because only the behaviour is available to form an opinion. We do not actually ‘know’ the person, we do not know the reason for his /her behaviour and despite that we go ahead and judge that person. It is alright to judge the act, but not the person.

Sometimes it could so happen that a person is always smiling and laughing and being jovial, but deep down he/she may be sad and is just putting on a show to avoid passing on his wounds to everybody. Maybe he/she is smiling on the surface and crying deep within.

Just by seeing a smiling face we cannot judge what is happening inside. The inside is not available to us. The inside is private; it is not available to anybody. So, the first thing to understand is that we can look only at the behaviour and the behaviour does not mean much. All that is really significant is the person behind. And we do not know. Our judgements are going to be wrong. And we know it — because when people judge us by our acts, we always feel that they have judged us wrongly.

Never judge anybody by their action — but that is the only thing available to us. So, what to do? Do not judge! By and by become more and more aware of the privacy of being. Every being inside his/her own soul is so private there is no way to penetrate it. Even when we love, something at the deepest core remains private. That is, one’s dignity. That is the meaning when we say man has a soul. Soul means that which can never become public.

So, before forming an opinion and judging others, look within and ask yourself what would you have done in similar circumstances — it is always better to try and put yourself in the other person’s shoes before making any judgement.

If we are truly spiritual, we will just watch and ‘see’ how things turn out. Life is flowing and events are happening, we are a part of the divine drama, judging others will only reflect on what is wrong with our own self deep down.



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Girish Borkar

Spirituality ... meditation ... insights ... inner peace ... the journey continues... love and gratitude