Regrets in Life
People have regrets in life — I should not have done this, done that, said this said that and so on. One feels that by doing something or saying something one hurts other and then they feel guilty about it. That guilt stays with them for a long time. As it is words are said to have a sharper blade than swords as the scar which is left affects both the heart and the psyche! Unless one is totally forgiven at the subtle level the effect of the negative vibrations remains for a very long time, sometimes affecting the health of the person concerned.
The best way to overcome such feelings is to give it a positive twist and go and actually say sorry to whomsoever you feel you have hurt through deed or word. This is the most difficult part — saying sorry! This is where the ego comes into play and your mind tells you, “Why should I say sorry? That person deserved it? What did I do wrong?” and so on and so forth. The mind gives you all kinds of excuses not to apologise. Do not listen to the mind, overcome these thoughts and actually go and say sorry to such persons from the bottom of your heart. The moment you do that you will feel much better! There is a reason for this ‘feeling good’ factor — you have gone against your mind, you have overcome your ego and gone and done something which is making your heart, your soul feel good. This is the cleansing process — the more you become humble, the more you become caring, the more you become giving — to that extent you are overcoming some or the other aspect of your ego.
You are moving from body consciousness to soul consciousness. You add meditation to your life, start meditating as part of a positive group of meditators, then at the very subtle level your cleansing starts happening automatically — the body consciousness starts evaporating, your nature starts changing and then over time you realise that you no longer say or do anything consciously that hurts anybody or anything, when you do so unintentionally and find that out, you go and apologise and set things right immediately — without a second thought. That is the transformation which takes place in you — you move away from guilt and move towards compassion and unconditional love towards all beings sentient and insentient!